When we talk about self-care, topics like nutrition, exercise, and mental health often come to mind. However, sexual wellness is also a vital dimension of overall well-being. Understanding and embracing sexual wellness, in whatever form that might take for you, can be an empowering part of your journey toward holistic health.
What Is Sexual Wellness?
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), sexual wellness is not just the absence of disease or dysfunction. The WHO defines sexual health as “a state of physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being in relation to sexuality.”[i] This means sexual wellness involves a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence. Sexual wellness is about feeling comfortable with your sexuality, making informed choices, and respecting both your own boundaries and those of others.
The Six Key Principles of Sexual Health
Building on the WHO’s definition, sexual health experts Doug Braun-Harvey and Michael Vigorito have outlined Six Key Principles of Sexual Health[ii]. These principles provide a universal framework for cultivating a healthy sexual life and are recognized internationally as foundational to sexual well-being:
- Consent: Sexual interactions must be rooted in mutual agreement and respect. Consent is voluntary cooperation, ensuring that all parties willingly participate and feel safe.
- Non-Exploitation: Sexual health requires that no one is manipulated or taken advantage of. All sexual interactions should be free from exploitation, power imbalances, or coercion.
- Honesty: Open and truthful communication about desires, boundaries, and sexual health status fosters trust and mutual respect between partners.
- Shared Values: Healthy sexual relationships are built on shared values and mutual understanding. Partners should clarify and respect each other’s motives, standards, and expectations.
- Protection from Sexually Transmitted Infections and Unintended Pregnancy: Sexual health includes taking steps to protect oneself and partners from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unintended pregnancy. This involves knowing your status, using protection, and making informed decisions.
- Pleasure: Experiencing pleasure is a natural and important part of sexual health. Balancing pleasure with safety and respect contributes to overall happiness and well-being.
Why Sexual Wellness Matters in Self-Care
Sexual wellness contributes to self-esteem, emotional stability, and healthy relationships. It can impact mood, stress levels, and physical health. By acknowledging sexual wellness as part of self-care, individuals can:
- Foster open communication about needs and boundaries
- Reduce stigma and shame around sexuality
- Build healthier relationships with themselves and others
- Enhance overall quality of life
Understanding sexual wellness as a part of self-care can help individuals of all gender identities, sexual orientations, and relationship styles achieve their wellness goals.
What does sexual self-care look like for you?
Written by:
Iris Wilson-Farley
[i] World Health Organization. (n.d.). Sexual health. https://www.who.int/health-topics/sexual-health#tab=tab_1
[ii] Harvey Institute. (n.d.). Six principles of sexual health. https://www.theharveyinstitute.com/six-principles-of-sexual-health
